Gender Norm

I always had a conflict with the word gender norm. Is their any true gender norm in today’s world? Isn’t sex enough to make a distinction among the two type of human being? Why is it that we have to have a significant gender role?

I was never in my gender norm because I have always been a tomboy. Since as far as I recall, my school memory, I have had pants and shirts on all the time. During my junior high to high school period I was a complete tomboy.

I still don’t understand how men could be so different than women by their gender!

When I started to wear skirt and blouse I received comments like, “Now she looks like a woman,” or “Now finally she is a she.” My reaction was something like I have always been a woman. When I wore pants and shirts I was a woman and when I started to wear skirt and blouse I am still a woman. I don’t think a woman could get more woman than what she is biologically born with.

This weekend I put on a dress and some makeup and went to hangout with my friends. Their reaction was, “nice Saima, you are looking nice.” I said, “Thanks ladies,” but in the back of my mind I knew what they were really commenting on. They really wanted to say, “Girl you look like a woman.” I think the image, of an ideal gender norm, for a woman is to catch a good man whose slave she will become later in life.
I enjoy wearing a dress as much as wearing pants. I usually wear pants because I could move around in it more quickly and carelessly. In a dress I would have to be a little gentler with myself. I have to admit that the easy breezy air is something I don’t get when I wear pants but my reactions of wearing a dress is; I guess as the society labels as lady like. For me attire is something that gives me comfort and for that if I am labeled as deviant in the society then let it be. I think that age has passed where a woman would be beneath a man. In today’s time a woman is as equal as a man in every way; unless whatever is our boundary biologically.